Hi CT1118, I'm fairly new here. From now on we want to see him making the effort to see us but it's so hard not speaking with him, I really hate what he had brought us to...
Coly23 - welcome, I will look for your thread. If you have not done one yet, please do - Cadet will have reading for you. I cannot project to know how you feel - if it helps to know how I feel though, I have come to realize hating my WW is the wrong approach; time here should show you that all of this makes you a better/stronger/improved human for what you have proven yourself willing to endure. I will tell you via statistics - its normal for people to cheat, its normal for their spouses to be pissed and scared, its normal for some people to have a midlife crisis and not give a sht about how it hurts others, its normal for people to think "fk them" and go tell the world what a piece of sht their spouse is, its correct for us to know its normal and not excuse their behavior - it is abnormal to realize you are worth more than that and will take care of yourself with the understanding that it may also take care of the one you love the most during your process. Speak out loud Coly23, we will hear you.
Originally Posted By: RSG
I agree w/Sotto though. She's scared of losing you to someone else, but is just making sure you're there. It's a really ugly thing honestly. Unless you can see a change in her attitude towards you (and you'll know), assume she's still in an A....
Damn straight RSG. I have seen a change in attitude, one where I feel the pursue/distance R may have shifted, but going back to that earlier football parable, I may have the ball, but I am far from the end zone. I will assume the A continues until I get proof. Even then, that is only the 2nd step in my goals for what the WW s doing (see earlier posts, she did get through step 1 goal by admitting she had fked things up with the A and that she was scared/confused). Lies are exposed, but only for me. The biggest lie is within the WW themselves. Better or worse right y'all? Its certainly a challenge.
"There is no more important fight than the one for ourselves. Keep on winning." Ginger1, Read her newbies. BD: Feb '16 D: Mar '17 Piecing: Putting the self back together was my piecing. S6
