"In other words you always want to say things like: "your mom is a good person, and I still love her. I will wait for her to come back and I won't look for another woman". That will give your daughters emotional stability and hope for reconciliation."

I think it is more realistic to say - Your Mom is a good person, but is going through some stuff right now. I don't know how things will unfold, but I love you and will always be here for you.

The thing is - in 6, 12, 24 months - we have no idea how things may unfold and we may not want to wait for ever or reconcile. She may not come back and you may want to look for another woman. It is best not to promise stuff like this as your kids could feel let down further down the line - he told us he would wait for ever and never look for another woman and now he has...

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus