Lost at the moment (2)

[lfm]

Hey Coconut,

Good question. Here's what I'm thinking. I could use some advice as to whether or not I'm on the right track.

1) If she's going to be in contact with the OM, she needs to leave the house. (This one is hard to enforce as it's a big enough house that I can't know she is following this without me following her around the house. I had implemented this one in the apartment we were living in and she did actually follow it for the most part.
2) OM is not allowed to set a foot in this house. I don't think this one would be broken anyway, but he was allowed in our prior house before the PA actually started.
3) We need to speak with our kids about the difficulties we have in our marriage right now and that we may very well end up proceeding down the path of divorce.
4) and this is the big one... telling my WW that for as long as the A continues, she needs to find somewhere else in the house to sleep.

I believe this boundaries are fair and valid. The difficulty I have is consequences for violating them. I feel like my only recourse at this point is to go ahead and file for divorce or to threaten to make the A public, which I don't really want to do as I am thinking long term about what that would do to our relationship and to the relationship of our kids. I dont' think there is anything else I can put out there as a consequence, but maybe I'm not thinking about that correctly.

Any thoughts from you or the group on these?

Thanks!