wow. what an informational Saturday. This will be a long one. thanks for reading! and your input!
my D was eager to tell me what happened with OM from other country. OM asked MY W to be his 'girl friend' (OM just turned 25 not sure his age matters) W said yes, but later found out OM has a girlfriend in his country. So W broke off all ties with him. Claims she doesn't love him anymore. Why in the world would my W tell this to our 10 year old?! What in the heck is she thinking? I told D that W is married and she cannot have "boyfriends" and I also told D never to do that! Also, If they are done, why aren't we back?!
Not sure why W feels the need to date, one of the reasons she gave me was she's never been single, 16, got with EXBF (D birth father cus she got pregnant) they were on and off until I arrived at 20yrs old (both of us). We fell in love, and she's been with me since.
I fixed the kitchen sink. W asked to take a look at the cable box. Forgot, will do tomorrow because Sunday is Family Game night. My W's love language is acts of service, which is why I'm hesitant not to do them...any direction here folks?
D mentioned W seemed extra happy today, D also said W is usually "ok" or "happy" but that lately when I come around she's been extra happy. Not letting it get to me. D said she'd keep a closer look. D has a habit of telling you what you want to hear, not such a credible source on this "observing" but felt nice to hear.
D also told me W and D are going to Mexico in October with W's nursing friend and are crashing their Family vacation. D mentioned W is scared to tell me because of how I will react, she does not want to make me mad since she canceled our first real vacation over our anniversary to Mexico this year (I was pretty pissed, and told her she was ruining my life. pre DR days of course) Knowing that, when my W finally tells me I will have been prepared and can act opposite of how she expects. I am deeply hurt, but not mad.
I had some good quality time with the D. (really working on my step-mothering, was a big problem I'm kind of strict, don't show my love for D, so everyone thinks I don't like her) We cleaned out her room and made room for Back to school clothes (I usually handle that while she's away with BF but I decided this year we could bond, that kid is messy!) W came in and asked if we wanted breakfast, W then came down with breakfast sandwiches and we sat on D's bed. W came in a few times thereafter to see what we were up to. W tried to have meaningless conversation with me, I avoided, Working on disengaging. W also showered came in to "chat" with really short shorts. Had to look away.
W is going to a party tonight, she made jello shots and deviled eggs, I told her to have a great time with her friends. Dropped D off at her sleepover. Annoyed I wasn't asked to watch her. But kept my mouth shut.
D leaves on Monday until the 14th, with cousins to another state. Going to work hard on disengaging and not pursuing my W.
Still very hopeful, just trying to keep a level head.
