Hi Cld. my EX had a horrible childhood. Her parents did separate due to her mom's own MLC. her mom did find a loser boyfriend who she stayed with for 2-3 years. Her mother claimed an abusive husband (hey, same story my EX is using).
I've known her dad now for over 17 years. He never shown anger or even frustration. He sadly, when his wife (my ex's mom) had her MLC or transition of life is what she calls it, went into a depression himself.
my Ex's mom took years to get it together. Many moves and my EX had no real childhood. always changed school so never had any friends. Shaved her head as a teen ( Wow, that`s what she did a few weeks ago ) rebelled and was programmed to have her own MLC.
My Ex's aunt(her moms sister) also had a MLC and is stuck in it. Botox, liposuction, dressing teenish. Had a love child who her own daughter adopted. Also my Ex has a bipolar cousin, the whole side of that family call crazy (how dare they!!).
So now my Ex-MIL encourages her daughter (my EX) to have this life transition and ruin her own family. They are closer now yippee. Prior to MLC my EX saw her mother 2-3 times a year.
One thing I know is thank God i am stable for my own D's . This my friends will not happen to them.
Hi Irish, It looks like history repeats itself when it comes to midlife crisis. Her mom had a loser boyfriend for 2-3 years, so you can expect your wife to do the same, and she might come back to you after that. I don't know how interested you are at this point to get her back, especially since the divorce has been finalized, I just think that she might try to come back home at some point. You are doing a good job trying to prevent your daughters to do the same someday and from what I have read, the best way to do it it's also by praising their mom no matter what. In other words you always want to say things like: "your mom is a good person, and I still love her. I will wait for her to come back and I won't look for another woman". That will give your daughters emotional stability and hope for reconciliation. It will also teach them to never give up in life no matter what. That's what I am doing with my kids, I am more concerned about their mental stability than about anything else right now.
