Hi Irish, congratulations and commiserations to you. When our D was finalised, I was both sad and also relieved, and as you say - it was closure for me. I'm still trying to get my name off the joint account, but XH isn't responding to me just now...may have to take my own steps to get that final thing resolved.

I loved the story of your D's birthday - sounds like the surprise was a huge hit and I'm glad she had such a great time. It was a shame about the flowers. I'm sure her Mum was trying to reach out - and yes she could have done more. It must also be hard for your D to be on the receiving end...

I do think your XW must still be pretty lost to miss out on the stuff she's missing out on. But at least things are resolved in terms of the M and you can keep moving forward.

Take care my friend smile

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus