I got HER divorce stamped and approved last Tuesday the day of my D15 turning 16. I kept it to myself since I didn't want to put any focus on my EX . It was my D16`s day.
We celebrated with my parents a quiet evening , pool, BBQ , presents. My D16 had an exam on the 27th to make up so we ended it early so she could be rested.
No news from EX at this point.
on the 27th, late afternoon, a florist came by the house and delivered a small bouquet of flowers. D16 thought they were from me. When she got in the house saw the note. Happy birthday, mom. No letter, no card, no sweet 16. My daughter was not happy. She called me since i was not yet home and asked me what to do. I said put them in a vase. She said she didn't want to accept them because they are meaningless. I said she is trying to reach out. Small steps.
My daughter walked them over to her work and dumped them on the outside mail box there with a note saying NO THANKS.
When I got home my D16 said it wasn't even her writing on the paper. No effort.
I said maybe she is away on vacation and called it in. She said.. no her car was at work.
I let it go. Not my job to try to sugar coat her mom's effort.
That evening I expected an email or text. Nothing. I know I would of wrote my D16 a letter of love especially having a gift return in such a manner. But that's me
My D16 invited some friends over yesterday to celebrate her birthday. I told them to all to get ready we are leaving at 7pm that my dad was going to help drive us all to the restaurant. Can't put more than 4 in my Car. At 7pm a stretch LIMO arrives. The girls go nuts. Screaming, jumping, selfies, I was so happy. Sweet 16 comes only once.
They all climb in the LIMO and ask me to come.. I said nope. It's your night , no daddy involved. The restaurant has already been paid and the Limo will bring you back home for 11 p.m... have fun.
the look in my D16 eyes were pure love and happiness. Something she won't forget ever. Made me tear up.
They arrived at 11PM. still all excited. They haven't stopped talking about it and it's 3:30pm Saturday lol
Me getting my divorce papers is closure. I now have no tied to my EX. I owe her nothing and I expect nothing of her. My journey is continuing the way I want it.
Life is good.
Irish
M51 XW43 (38 at bd) BD1 MAY 30 2015 BD2 JUNE 25 2015 by text moved out Aug 2 2015 left both Daughters 13 and 15 (now 18-20) Her divorce Final July 26 2016 Last time she saw her kids Aug 2 2015
