Thanks for the continued support gang,

The move has been a lot more hectic than I thought it would be so it's been a few days since I've been able to post anything. We are in the house, and working on getting settled. It's amazing how much crap we've accumulated after being together for going on 22 years.

Zephyr - totally agree that it was a cake eating move on my WWs part. The following night she also kind of snuggled with me, laying her arm across me. I think something may have happened around that time between her and the OM and she was looking for comfort from the one source she had available. I'll enjoy it for what it was, which was some nice companionship for those couple of nights. My W has pretty much pulled away again since then, and I've noticed for the past week or so that she's stopped wearing her wedding ring. I'm not sure if its because of the move or if there is something going on in her mind that's prompting this. Contact with the OM as far as I can tell has been very minimal during this week, but think it may be picking up again.

Sandi, definitely in a position where I feel like I'm letting her go, but know there is part of me that is still attached. I'm finding it really difficult to completely dettach and not have any feeling for her particularly when we are still living in the same house and sleeping in the same bed.

Rose - as far as I can tell the affair is still going on, and shows no sign of stopping, not that there is necessarily any indication that it will stop.

As far as myself over the past week, I haven't done much in terms of GAL becuase it's all been about the move. I did have a phone consultation with an attorney to run through what I needed to be prepared for when I file for D. I can't say that I'm 100% convinced that is what I will do, but feel like I get a little bit closer to filing with each passing day. I think I need to give a little bit of time for things to settle after the move before jumping into that.

I do have a business trip out of town coming up in a couple of weeks so maybe that will help with some of the detachment issues, as I'll be away from WW and kids for 4 days.

Hope everyone is having a great weekend and I'll try to post again soon.


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Me:44
W:44
Together 22
Married 21
S 19
D 17, 15, 15. 7
EA/PA suspected 3/30/2016
EA/PA confirmed 4/5/2016
ILYBINILWY 4/5/2016
WW asked for Divorce 5/8/2016 (WW has backtracked)