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[Irish M]

PLEASE NOTE... MY STBXW IS NOW OFFICIALLY XW. I will update below.

So wonderful to have been with you here while you have progressed and grew.
Mirage

Hi Mirage xx, it is I who am grateful. So many of you here have helped me grow. Either by your posts to my sitch or me reading your situations and learning from them. I will never forget what I have learnt here.

Hi Sotto.xx
yes exactly why I am so disconnected from XW. I wouldn't date her or let her be in the presence of my girls alone. She is clearly in a crisis.

[quote=job]
As for the government...they are going to have a difficult time getting that support money back from your STBXW. She's probably already spent it. They may end up taking it from her salary and could very well put her in jail for fraud. She's going to be facing some of her consequences for her actions very soon. I sure wouldn't want to be in her shoes.
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hi Job xx
the Gov't will garnish her pay. If she files bankruptcy they get paid before they pay her any kind of support. Also it's a criminal offence so she may be banned from getting any kind of future support if needed. I don;t want to be in her shoes either. Not my circus right :-)

I think you're wise to avoid the purple haired one's FB page. Sorry your daughter had to see that, but then again, it might help her in the long run .. hard to know at 15 how she's going to process it. It's certainly not the mom she knew ...

hi bttrfly xx
you are so right. my girls need to see this new mom so they can process it knowing she is not well and she is not the mom they once knew. Also helps them to not blame themselves. I am so blessed to have both of them at a level or understanding. No hatred towards their mom just they won't reach out to her.

mleigh and Bright ( hugs and xx to both of you ), thanks for checking in. Yes D16 had an amaazin birthday
see below :-)

Hi Irish - so happy to hear about your house. FB is truly a double edged sword. People are foolish on social media and in my experience the ones with the most selfies are full of illusion.

Hi Gwen xx, you are so right. From what I've learned about MLC and narcissists, you can clearly see those who are either borderline MLC or in it. Or just naturally born narcissistic. If you saw my FB page you'd see the love i have for my family and girls. My XW's FB is all her.. me myself and I . not one pic of her daughters. Prior to MLC was all about family.

Sad to read about the facebook incident - how heart wrenching! Another act of selfishness by your STBXW - putting all that out there for the world, including your daughters, to see. I will never understand as long as I live how a parent just ceases to think about their own children.
, IP

I 150% agree inpain xx
I think after this FB visit they will stay away. They are curious so I can't prevent them.
It's sad.

Can you tell us a bit more about your wife's childhood please?
In particular I would like to know if her parents got divorced before she turned 15, how it happened and how her mom dealt with the situation, if she had affairs and so on.

Hi Cld.
my EX had a horrible childhood. Her parents did separate due to her mom's own MLC.
her mom did find a loser boyfriend who she stayed with for 2-3 years. Her mother claimed an abusive husband (hey, same story my EX is using).

I've known her dad now for over 17 years. He never shown anger or even frustration. He sadly, when his wife (my ex's mom) had her MLC or transition of life is what she calls it, went into a depression himself.

my Ex's mom took years to get it together. Many moves and my EX had no real childhood. always changed school so never had any friends. Shaved her head as a teen ( Wow, that`s what she did a few weeks ago )
rebelled and was programmed to have her own MLC.

My Ex's aunt(her moms sister) also had a MLC and is stuck in it. Botox, liposuction, dressing teenish. Had a love child who her own daughter adopted. Also my Ex has a bipolar cousin, the whole side of that family call crazy (how dare they!!).

So now my Ex-MIL encourages her daughter (my EX) to have this life transition and ruin her own family.
They are closer now yippee. Prior to MLC my EX saw her mother 2-3 times a year.

One thing I know is thank God i am stable for my own D's . This my friends will not happen to them.