Shelob's Lair

[Maybell]

I've got so much to ay to you. But I also have a paper to finish up and my friends are on the way for the weekend.....

So, I'll say a little but. I am not Ms. Suzy Sunshine. I'm a realist. So, I do not see the world as all good. Because it isn't. There is good and bad, and somewhere in between. If I focused on all the bad, well, everything would be dark and gray. How miserable it would be. I'd swear everyone off and live in a hole.,

Example: I am a nurse. I used to work in ICU. We had this young, rather large patient would would end up in our ICU, intubated, on the brink of death every few years. We would break our backs cleaning him. We would do all we could to keep this young man who did not care for himself alive. As soon as he was well enough to come off the ventilator, he woul curse us all out and sign out Against medical advice. Then we would see him a few months later and the same cycle would happen. And one day, he only made it as far as the morgue, unfortunately.

Then there are patients like the young cop, who was an avid pool player. If i was on shift, I was his nurse.He loved pool as much as you do. He came in septic and tied to die a bunch of times. And he lost his hand. due to septic shock. Not good for a pool player and a cop. Well,we saved him. He woke up, came off the ventilator and he wasa so incredibly grateful he was alive. He just kept thanking us, even though he lost his hand (and a foot). All his cop buddies, and his father, the ex captain, couldn't have been more thankful. He works on the force my exSIL's husband works in. He now works at the desk, but got prosthetics and plays pool again!

Moral of my long drawn out stories. I could focus on Mr. ungrateful and think that is what humanity is and swear off people because of him. Or I could focus on Mr. Cop, because I believe he is the majority in this world, and the more people I bring closer, like him, the better my life will be.

I think your focus is so zoomed in on the bad, you can't see the good. It's not a matter of even reframing. It's a matter of focusing elsewhere. Personality disorder or not, this would probably be the way to handle it.

I LOVE THIS. Thanks, Ginger, that was perfect!!!