1. She hasn't mentioned getting back together, why do you think she would let you see her phone. Transparency happens when she expresses remorse and wants to do anything she can to make it work... For now drop the rope (it really feels good when you do). Base updates on what is good for you.
2. Not updating because she asks sounds like punishment, again do what's good for you. If she keeps asking, block her number on your phone during the day, that way you don't get the texts, then unblock when you are ready to text.
3. If you unblocked her on Facebook so she would do the same, you did it for the wrong reason. Do you want to block her? If so do it, if not don't do it, but expect nothing.
Don't discuss any of these with her again, just take the action that works for you.
RSG, Pay attention to c-nuts advice here.
Have you read DR? Do you understand what the LRT is and what you should be doing to implement it for your situation? Lots of good advice from folks that you need to follow, but it appears as if you are resisting it. Why is that? Are you doing what you feel is best? How has that worked so far? Maybe time for a different approach if you want different outcomes.
Pick up DR and get to reading and applying the principles. You should be doing what is based on sound principles and not what feels right if you want to make progress.
Right now she is distancing herself from you and your pursuit is helping that process move along. Is that what your goal is?
Time to focus on you. Fix you. Become the person only a fool would leave. Pay attention to those that have walked the path and already learned the hard way and or was successful because they paid attention to how to navigate the storm.
Me 46 Former W 46 D19 D7 BD Feb 2016 WAW moves out 4/16/16 D final 6/1/2017
It's time for me to start changin' the way I look at the world......and at myself. ~James Howlett aka Wolverine
