You are dealing with a teenage like transitional mind. The WW i someone who hijacked your W.
I never tried very hard to classify my W into WAW, WW or MLC but ... I was just thinking this evening, Where the hell did my W go? She's just unrecognizable. All this time that we were married, all the time that she was kind, tender and gentle with me ... was this person underneath it all, wanting to come out? Now she seems so focused on her appearance and getting her freedom and getting her kicks, I felt like I was looking at a 17 year old, not a 40-something year old.
Everyone walks their own path and learns in their own way. I have a learning disability in the form of ADHD, I have succeeded in life despite this, but for me the desire to have something make sense can become overwhelming. Thus, the need for category became very important to my healing. It also helped me understand that when person is in a midlife crisis, this is a form of mental collapse and it will not make sense-not to me, not to her, certainly not to anyone I know except my IC and those of you here. This understanding helped me finally begin detachment.
"There is no more important fight than the one for ourselves. Keep on winning." Ginger1, Read her newbies. BD: Feb '16 D: Mar '17 Piecing: Putting the self back together was my piecing. S6
