New here and separated

[Coly23]

Thanks Raul and ForGump. I know I should count myself lucky that we are able to still see each other but even up until last night we were never sure what mood he would be in so we spent most of the day before he arrived worrying. Sometimes when he came over he looked so sad, sometimes like a petulant child and sometimes like a rabbit in headlights. The awkwardness was so palpable that when he left we felt conflicted with feelings of relief and sadness.

I think last night was the first time I didn't really care what mood he was going to be in. I had no expectations and i made sure that I kept my talking to a minimum and let him and my daughter do all the talking but he still managed to draw me into the conversation anyway. The only awkward thing that happened is that when he was going to go I offered to pack up the remainder of his takeaway (chicken curry) to take back with him but he looked a bit hurt and suggested I freeze it instead. I was genuinely a little confused and said that there was no point as he wasn't here to eat it! To which he replied that when he comes over next week and if he fancies curry we can defrost rather than buy another one. This is what we used to do as a family as none of us would ever finish our takeaway so we always froze them for a lazy evening when we couldn't be bothered to cook. I'm just worried that he is cake eating or is he genuinely trying to reconnect slowly?

ForGump, I can't imagine how hard this must be for you to be living under the same roof as your W knowing that she is working towards filing for D. Surely if she wanted D so badly she would be steaming towards it? You say she is determined but slowly working towards D but that does not sound like a determined W to me, it sounds more like someone who still isn't quite sure of her decision but isn't going to tell you that! In the meantime you are left in limbo waiting which is very unfair. Are there any 180s you could do go try and shake things up a bit?