Detachment has always been something I've struggled with. Though I'd like to think I'm getting slightly better. I didn't give into his ways, as I often get the impression h is only physicality attracted to me. And I do deserve more than that, I'm a good person, I have morals and a big heart. But mami won't be taken for a fool, so after I told him no sex. I'm sticking to it.
But I'll read and re read until it sticks
Waiting for his crazy train to crash but I guess I can't force that
Hi Cherry
I know detachment is a big challenge. It is a big challenge foe most of us. I think one of the reasons that it is a challenge, is because it is misunderstood and or thought to simply be a place that is reached in our minds. I am researching and reading about it a lot to better understand what it is and how it can be implemented and applied for a strong healthy relationship. Relationships first with ourselves. Second with other people.
Anyway, my point that hopefully I can make for you here in short, is I am seeing it more as an action we LBS must practice constantly. Kind of like getting into shape and or being healthy after not being in shape and unhealthy. It is hard at first. It hurts at first. We struggle and are not sure if we are doing things right. The key is that we remain consistent and practice daily. Learn from error and mistakes and adjust.
Detachment is an action and a choice that takes effort and work and then we will become strong and healthy....emotionally and mentally.
The thread in cadets homework about detachment should be read daily and implemented until it makes sense.
You can do this. I look forward to seeing a post in the next day or two from you about one thing you learned from the detachment material and how you implemented it. Lets start there if you are up to it.
Me 46 Former W 46 D19 D7 BD Feb 2016 WAW moves out 4/16/16 D final 6/1/2017
It's time for me to start changin' the way I look at the world......and at myself. ~James Howlett aka Wolverine
