Newby here, desperate for some advice (thread 2)

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JRuss

You'd better put on some special underwear. Something to remind you subconsciously that you're a different man now.

Had a good talk w/ a friend going through her own marriage issues, and the idea came up that there can be a "core" issue underneath all the visible problems. At the very least I think it's a useful concept to turn over in our heads. Instead of thinking of your (my) problems being a hodge-podge collection of various mis-steps and bad habits, think about what is a core issue for your W when she thinks of you. She's not attracted to you any more because ... you're not masculine enough (to her on-going perception). Maybe? Whatever that core issue might be for you (and for me), we need to project that from our inner selves.