I could get him a cake and presents and just sing him happy birthday at my MIL's house. I don't have a place where I could have a party. I also wanted to know if you all think I'm being an a $$hole. So I started no contact with the W. I didn't really tell her I was going to do it or why it was happening, I just stopped talking to her. She had sent me text messahes apologizing for her actions and thanking me for helping her parents. I recently took a trip and she asked me to let her know when I got there to know I arrived safely and I did, not really engaging in conversation afterwards. And I called and didn't really talk to her much, just talked to my S and then hung up. I haven't communicated with W in 4 days and the last time she had to tell me something, she told her Mom to tell me. Should I continue to not talk to her? Things seemed to be going ok when we were talking, she was opening up and now she won't even text me, all her communication goes through her Mom. Makes me uncomfortable, like we are growing further apart as opposed to closer together.
I would not miss my child's bday party to preserve NC. Celebrating and supporting your son trumps NC.
Just my two cents.
Me: 44 H: 44 Kids: 20, 16, 16, and 10 Together/Married: 22 years H announced he was emotionally detached and considering D: 4/4/16 H announced he is going to try to stay and reconnect: 5/1/16
