Newby here, desperate for some advice (thread 2)

[ForGump]

So my mind was flopping around a lot, so I didn't really validate much. ... I just get the sense that she's put the cart (D talk) before the horse (thinking through what a D will be like).

Yeah, would've been good if you said something like, "Yeah, it would be good if you and they maintained good relations," with the subtext being that that relationship is important to her, and the best way to do that is for her to be careful about this D she's throwing herself into...

I have the exact same problem w/ my W about putting the cart before the horse! But it fits in w/ the way my W's mind works. She's impulsive and generally does not and cannot fully imagine the ramifications of her actions until she's plunged herself into the situation. But I thought your wife is a lawyer? I would've guessed that lawyers' brains are very good at working out hypothetical situations and their ramifications?

Next week, when the kids are with my folks, and we're in the house alone together, will be interesting. That's an opportunity for me to make some headway, I think, by not being accessible and reliably "there". Any practical advice?

It could also be a tough week, if things don't go your way. Be careful pumping yourself up with hope. I hope you can keep yourself busy. Maybe set up some social things w/ friends? Go see a movie, go to a pub, etc.?