New here and separated

[ForGump]

My situation is bad, no sign of any changes in my W's feelings and her overall intent to get a D.

Interesting to hear you say your feelings are getting buried. Could be a good thing, that you're on your way to recovery from a dysfunctional relationship.

In any case, I think the general advice given here is right, that things don't get better by trying to fix the marriage, you just work on being the best person you can be, and hope that draws your H to you, and inspires him to work on himself too.

I wish the best for you.