Ok, my friend. You know I tells it like it is...so....
You need to get a handle on all the stuff thats building up inside you cuz it is starting to bubble over.
People like you and I dont get the whole here's a $10,000 watch because you like it kind of a thing. People like your wife...do. Neither of us is right or wrong in how we feel. It all has to do with perspective, right?
You feel as you do. They are your feelings and so they are valid to you. But...you need to start counting to 20 or something before you react to things. And you can say to her, I am going to call you right back, ok?
I can feel your frustration alllllll the way over here. So I can only imagine how she feels it.
I understand it some, too. But if your goal is a restored marriage, you need to change your outlook on some things. You need to pick your battles and what is really, really important.
Im thinking that the look on your son's face, some family time and making memories is a huge thank you, no?
This is what I have learned. I cant rely on someone else to make me validate and worthy. That has to come from deep inside me. That isnt to say that we shouldnt, in a relationship, let the other person know that we value and honor them. To me, it's having the expectations of when and where according to what I want, that causes problems.
Be loving, C. Be the man you want to be every single day. For you. Some days you will make it, some you wont. But that should always be the goal.
It's all the little things added up that matters. The small progress every day, the little changes that matter. That and who you are.
She has to figure herself out. You have to let her. Your job...is to work on you and take care of yourself and your son. That's all you have control of. THe rest....aint in your power.
Now, dont make me have to go all Brooklyn on you...ya hear?
