I am trying with all my effort to not overtly or subtly discuss about our MR or the prospect of R. This last discussion was about just my personal exhaustion and due to my efforts the W agreed it was a fair statement.
Part of my 180 is to not talk about MR and just show by example my openness to space and to her processing of her pain. Prior, I was attempting control by attempting to convince her I've changed, guilting her, and asking/demanding a final chance.
As to the possibility of household help, I have long considered it and will probably do so after this summer. I am taking on many of the responsibilities: part of my 180 and LL is providing act of services. I want my W to see by actions that I have changed (in my past I've done pieces of the work, but now I have the majority of it) Plus for me, part of my detachment is understanding if I can take all this responsibility in case of the worst case situation.
My wife is on a weekend trip with 7 of her GF at her best friends lake house and I have the kids with me on a biz trip and we'll stay here in this city for the weekend. Everyday is a challenge, but I pray (in my situation) my wife can eventually forgive and open her heart again to the concept of "us". Some days I think its possible and other times I think there's too much baggage.
Thank you again for your advice.
BTW. how do you those quotes boxes? I kept looking for the instructions and couldn't find it? Could you direct me to the direction for posting? Thank you.
