So good to hear from you IP. I think I have reached a point now where I'm not interested in what people think about OW. H's actions speak volume to me. Only time will tell. It's strange as if H was to settle down with someone else, I don't think I would be that resentful, and I would probably be friendly towards they new woman. Really can't explain why. I'm reading an interesting book about self worth, and also I have a friend who has been such a support for me. She is a little further down the road, and has so many wise advice! What I have really appreciated was that some people I truly consider as friends (even SIL) don't agree with what H's did/ is doing, and to me it shows that there are still some people with morals and values. So not everyone is bad in this world!