"I feel like picking up the phone and 'just checking in to see how you are' etc. Would that be wrong?"
Yes, that would be pursuit. Try to remember that often doing nothing is doing something. I would leave her be and focus on your own life.
As for your parents and her...I think you are trying to 'fix' in what you said. I would purely validate with that one - I'm sorry you feel that way etc. It's actually very difficult to just say that and not go any further. However, by not trying to fix, you are respecting that she needs to take her own journey here and I think that is a loving thing to do.
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
