I have been hoping that your move is going well and that it has not been dredging up BS between you and wife!
Originally Posted By: lfm
It doesn't help that in the middle of the night last night my wife curled up with me, putting her hed on my shoulder and arm across my chest. She said "This doesn't mean anything, but I cant' sleep." She fell asleep on my shoulder about 10 minutes later.
It was so very nice as I've missed having any sort of physical connection with anyone. Maybe that's contributing to my feeling of sadness today along with the packing up of things that I know at some point are going to be distributed between different households.
So, I KNOW how hard the loss or lack of physical connection is on men like us. It is, for many men, the most impactful act for feeling loved by others. a warm hug from a close friend, child holding our hands walking in the park, or and embrace from a lover. I get it. I love physical touch too.
When you wife acts the way you described, she is using you. plain and simple. the term here on DB is Cake-Eating. that is just a nicer way of proclaiming being used and effectively mistreated and manipulated.
now, the feeling of a woman's arm around your chest and her head on your shoulder...that is euphoric, but how did it feel when she told you, 'it meant nothing'? how did it feel the next morning (I am assuming she went right back to how it was the day before)? I have been there and it leaves a pretty deep bruise, one that hurts more than the niceness of the moment.
This is all so new, so I will keep it short.
Out of curiosity (because I can't remember), have you read all of Sandi's threads on the Wayward wife?
You are doing really great. I know this is not an easy situation, but I think you are handling yourself well!
