I want to encourage you to review cadets homework for detachment. Your h has issues as I perceive from your posts and you seem to be caught on the hook of his fishing line.
Detaching will help you avoid the confusion of his behaviors and words to you.
Please do not give into his sweet talking about his attraction and sex with you. You deserve more than a husband that acts as if physical attraction is all he needs from his w and mother of his children. He needs some serious therapy and counseling based on what you are sharing. Do not stand to close to his circus convoy, because when it crashes you do not need to be caught up in the wreckage.
Give yourself some space from him. You need it. He needs it.
Me 46 Former W 46 D19 D7 BD Feb 2016 WAW moves out 4/16/16 D final 6/1/2017
It's time for me to start changin' the way I look at the world......and at myself. ~James Howlett aka Wolverine