Detaching.....nearly there..

[Surfer]

So my W, is now starting to feel the stresses of her actions. She is painted into a corner and is starting to feel he pressure of he choices - leaving etc. Not good but I think I perhaps should leave her and not try to help as such? Because I care for her I feel like picking up the phone and 'just checking in to see how you are' etc. Would that be wrong?

Second point. When a WW is telling their 'story', reinventing history etc much of it is garbage. For example she is currently telling me, no doubt others, that my parents have 'dropped her like a rock'. I know this is untrue, but she tells me still. Do you validate these things - when you know the, to be untrue? I said "I think even though you feel that to be the case my parents would be very hurt if you genuinely think this and rather than telling me or others you should speak to them directly. I am very sure they care for you and always have." Or should I just validate - "I can see why that might feel painful etc".?