The lie continues...

[RSG]

Brother, you're following my posts. I barely answer anything, the old lady is trying to find new ways to contact me and don't instigate anything. And I still get groaned at for talking too much lol.

I have a feeling you're going to get blasted my friend.

My advice: If you don't feel like answering a call, you don't have to tell her why. Just ignore it. If she says have a good day, stick to a word or two in response if anything. Your answer about insurance was good.

Going dim means you're showing her what it'd be like to be divorced, and to live your life like a single dad. For all intents and purposes right now that's what you are. I try to keep all communication to $$$ and scheduling. I let out something unnecessary every now and then, but I know she's VERY frustrated with everything. I don't want to be her friend, and I want her to know that. SAYING it will make her sad or angry in the moment, but if I answer her calls and shoot the bull all day she'll know I'm there.

It's hard, and you're moving forward but I'd encourage you to set a daily goal. Something like no phone calls and 2 texts responses of 4 words or less. If you hit that goal consistently then you can move to something more difficult. Now, if something comes up like your kid is sick or you have to work out who has him next week or she asks how much $$ she has to contribute to XYZ that's different.