Keep Wearing Wedding Band?

[JRuss]

ForGump -- Seems ok to me. Hopefully it WILL plant that seed.

I am again struck by how similar our sitches are in a lot of ways. My wife has as long as I've known her had a simmering ennui (or, as you put it, a hole) about her, where she devalues what she has, where she is in her life, her current relationships, etc. because they don't live up to her idealized, imagined future versions. I for a very long time avoided being the subject of her dissatisfaction until, one day, I didn't. And I haven't figured out how to plant a seed or get her to slow down and reconsider her (apparently chosen) path. So maybe I'm reading too much of my sitch onto yours and wanting to think that what you said is the right path. But man, if I could get the opportunity to say something like that, I think I'd take it. Which could be completely wrong, because I don't think I'm fully fluent in DB at this stage by a long shot.