Did Not See It - But Should Have

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Busy the last couple of days. Tuesday I had an IC appointment, had lunch with my cousin (who had a devastating D a few years ago), a DB coach appointment, and discovered my W was admitted to hospital due to her stomach pains.

Just as my W used to do that would anger me, she didn’t let anyone know she was going to the hospital until after the fact, so then it leaves everyone scrambling. I had to find out through text message. I texted her after I had dinner to work out the details of picking up her dog for a few days while she recovered from her ulcer. She responded by saying when she gets out of “XYZ” hospital. Now XYZ hospital is about 40 minutes from the town we live in. There are 2 hospitals within minutes from here, but she had to go to the one downtown. I found out later her hernia doctor works out from the downtown hospital and he wouldn’t be able to see her if she went to the nearby hospitals. I had to pick the dog up from her BF around midnight. During the night we talked on the phone about what she was going through. She was in a “wait and see” position. I told her to give me a call when she heard something. She called me about 3 AM and told me they were going to admit her to the hospital for observation. This is after she had been there for hours already. They still didn’t have a room for her so she was basically in a hospital bed in a hallway.

Discovered it wasn’t her hernia causing her the intense pain, but she had an intestine blockage caused by her small intestine twisting. The doctors prescribed her pain medication and continued to monitor her. They wanted to see if bed rest would allow it to work itself out or if surgery would be needed.

Anyway, I did visit my W in the hospital last night. I wasn’t going to as I did not want to cause her (or myself) any stress. In the past she always felt I only visited her in the hospital out of “duty” and not any real concern. I admit I did visit because I felt it was something I had to do, but I also did it because I did care about her. I didn’t particularly enjoy visiting her before because I never got the vibe she appreciated me being there with her. Almost everyone who knows her knows she is not a very good patient to be around at times.

My D visited my W yesterday after she got off work. My D works downtown so it was easy for her to swing by and see her mother. My D called and said my W welcomed me to come see her. I quickly took a shower and drove the 40 minutes to see her. During the trip I did swing by my W’s BF and picked up her glasses. My W and left them in the BF’s car when she took her to the hospital.

The visit went very well. I was there about 90 minutes. We didn’t talk about us, so no issues were brought up to cause tensions to rise. Luckily, she didn’t get any visitors while I was there. I don’t think too many people know my W is in the hospital. It was just the two of us.

Not to get too nitty-gritty, but she pulled up her gown to show her belly and the aftereffects of her plastic surgery/tummy tuck she has had done. She even pulled down her panties to show off the work around her privates. It was all so nonchalant. I only commented about her tummy. Her tummy looks much better. I had lots of thoughts when she pulled her panties down, but wisely I kept my mouth shut.

She struggled to get out of bed so we could hug warmly. When I left I bent down to give her a hug and a slight kiss on her check. No ILY was exchanged.

It seems like the bed rest did the trick. I just got off the phone with my W. She was able to eat this morning without vomiting and she is pain free. Her last pain medication was at 11 PM last night. It looks as if she will be released today and her BF is going to pick her up. I will see her again tomorrow morning at a meeting place to give the dog back to her and then I probably won’t see her again for a couple of weeks. I am not reading anything into this, but it is nice to converse with my W with no tension in the air. I’m sure there are going to be a lot of dark days ahead, but currently we are not at each other’s throats so I have to see that as a good thing.
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