WW confused about the future.

[RSG]

Yes. Take this advice. Do you want to be a H, or just one of many friends? I could feel the friends crap coming on, and have drastically cut communication. They'll do everything they can to keep up with you. My WW is starting to respect me more and more, is interested in what I do, has made it known she's scared of me dating, tries to provoke empathy, knows I'm not answering my phone or texts so has started to call the work phone and just began sending emails.

They want to have a sense of family while not having to perform a single duty of a W. It's outrageous in theory, but we miss them and family so much it's hard to say no at first. They'll cry, get angry, and do all kinds of things to provoke a response. WW sent me an email yesterday I felt questioned my parenting skills. I wanted to blow up about it, but calmed down and sent her a short response validating her concerns and pushing back on a few things she noted.

I too want a W. I want a family. But in order to show HER what it means to be family, you cannot enable them. Not easy, and I'm far from perfect. But my WW is learning what it'd be like to be D, not having me to depend on for $$$, support, time, casual S conversations, etc.

You and your kids are #1.