wife of 14 years walks out on her family

[Coly23]

Hi Raul, I know it's easier said than done but you've got to stop falling into her trap. Have you read about the 'Distancer and Pursuer'? It really opened my eyes, the Distancer being your wife and the Pursuer being you. The more you pursue the more they run, then when you stop pursuing they get curious and start pursuing you, lull you into a false sense security and then once they have your attention the game starts again. Only you can stop the cycle and be firm. No flowers, no allowing her to come and cause you to sleep on the sofa. She doesn't want to be your wife so she has to learn what it is like not to be your wife!