I wish I had woken up a year ago when I was 2 mobths in
I know DB says no pleading or reasoning w/ your spouse, but ... this morning my W engaged me in a chat about how psychological problems run in her family and how she's a bit of an exception, and I found myself blurting a thought I've had for a while now: that she has a big hole in her life, a dissatisfaction, and that she might fill that hole temporarily by finding some new exciting way of life (i.e., I was thinking, divorce and find a new guy -- but I didn't say that), but that the hole is always going to come back after the initial excitement wears off. She fell silent, and I didn't elaborate further.
It didn't feel like a mistake to say it, because I didn't say it in a pleading tone, and I didn't drone on. I just said it more matter-of-factly, and moved on. It felt to me more like I'm just staking out my position, rather than pleading, but I can't deny that I hope it has some effect on her. My thought is that it's OK to plant a troubling thought once in a while that subverts the WAS's fantasy world.
Am I wrong?
Me: 50, MLC/WW 45 Young kids Nov 2015: BD1 Apr 2016: BD2 Jan 2017: W filed Feb 2017: D final
