wife of 14 years walks out on her family

[Raul]

Thank you RSG and CT1118 for the great advice.

I am still new here and its terminology. I read somewhere here that when NC is implemented, WW may do a check in, not sure what its coined here. My W has done it to me twice, or at least I think has. This emotional roller-coaster is so confusing. She will scream at me and tell me to leave her alone. I leave her alone and NC. Then usually about the 5 day, she text me or calls me to ask me something. I call or answer the phone and talk. Then I think she might want to talk to me and so I continue to pursue her.

Point in case. I did not talk to her for 3 days after one month that she left. She then calls me and ask if she can spend the night over because she is tired and getting out of work. She was staying with a friend which is less than a mile away. For her to come home, it is a good 6 miles. So I agree. She comes in after work, which is around 11:30pm. I used to wait for her by the door every night to kiss her hello and hug her. Which i did not do so this time. She goes straight to bed, i slept in the living room which I still do. I went to work the next morning, did not bother her. I was so happy. I thought she wants to come home. So afterwork, I have flowers and I am happy to think she wants to work this out. As soon as i walk in, she is walking out. I told her if she wanted to stay for dinner or hang out. She was cold and told me that she has not changed her mind. So i pursue her again! Eventually she screams to leave her alone and that i failed the test. I ask what test? She then walks away and says i am obsessed over her. I become distraught and so confused.

That is why I was asking if this was her way of checking on me or not. I don't know.

I have not responded to her. I text her the times the school starts and date. That is all. I am planning to take my daughters school shopping on Friday. I don't think it is good idea to see my W. I am doing so good and finally happy.