sandi2 My w has always had a secretive side to her. She always kept her social media sites private from me but I did have access to her facebook account until she changed the password when we separated. Men have always flirted with her via messages but nothing ever happened. It was like an easy way to get attention without any confrontation or pressure to act out. If I ever found something and confronted her, she would become very angry as if she was found out.
I don't think she is seeing anyone else. There is no plan A. She knows that with two young children it would be almost impossible to sustain a relationship and would alienate me, which she relies on too much.
She is very introverted as a person. Very reserved and would rather text that pick up the phone. She is a planner, very organised and rarely spontaneous. She is a control freak. Still tells me how to parent the kids and likes to know what I'm doing. Although, she likes her own company until she needs me or has no plans of her own so likes to tag along with me and the girls.
My W has said that the porn was not really the main reason for the D and it was more to do with me not meeting her needs and the problems I had with my D8. She says she likes the person I have become but doesn't want to get back with me.
I gotta keep breathing. Because tomorrow the sun will rise. Who knows what the tide could bring?
