I think you can engage with someone in a detached way. It is less about the physical interaction and more about your emotional investment (or detachment) in that process.
So, you could have a difficult convo with your WAS, but remain calm and go happily about your day afterwards. I think it helps to adopt a third party 'hmm, that's interesting' perspective on such interactions, which builds in a little emotional distance for you. That doesn't mean we act distant or we don't engage, it's more an internal shift.
JMHO of course and hope it's useful
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We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
