Detaching.....nearly there..

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Detachment and how to communicate is really tricky for the LBS. How do you detach and engage? The definitions of the words are diametrically opposed. Add to this a really messy history of communications, an angry (if not wayward) spouse, upset kids etc and is there any wonder that we have such trouble making progress? You then get DB coach advice to be there, stay positive etc. It all seems like a swirling circle of misdirection at times.

I can see why DB starts with detaching. However, if honest I think most struggle with this as the instinct behind this entire forum is to re-attach/engage.