I think codependency is a really important feature too. The more codependent we are, the harder it becomes to achieve more detachment and independence. And we can cling to a toxic situation like a clam to a rock. It is good to reach a point of realisation and do what it's best for oneself - not try to save the M at all costs - but release the outcome and reclaim yourself.
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
