That's interesting HaWho. Shortly before BD (and when his A was underway) XH told me a story about a colleague of his. This guy had been M for years, and was serially unfaithful. He and his W separated a number of times due to this, and presumably there was massive heartache all round. Ultimately, they decided to stay together in a sort of open M and this seemed to be working for them (him?)

The thing is, XH told me this story as though it was a kind of success story that might be emulated or aspired to.....ugh...

Xx

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus