the reason I have built such a great family life is because of who I am and all that I have given to my family
I dunno. Seems accurate to me. You built a much better family life than either of her sons. Just because he can't enjoy that...
And yes, it can always be worse. Always. For example, she could come live with you
I read that, and can't say I'm surprised. She seems to be a peacemaker type that avoids conflict at all costs. I wouldn't have high hopes for her in any regard.
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At first I thought, "but I didn't cause these things, so why am I being punished?". But now I realize, it doesn't matter. Its happening. He can't see any of the good from our relationship. He just can't right now.
C, you are spot on with that epiphany. And as for the portrayal of you? I wouldn't give it a second thought. You will be portrayed as whatever he dreams up for the immediate future. Long term? Not likely that you'll continue to be the "bad" person at some point. It's possible, but not as common as you might think. I know for me, I'm portrayed as the bad guy for now. It's been a lot of years. But I also know that's not important to me. It is to my kids, my ex and her husband, but that's about it. My kids and I know better and that's enough for me. The rest is so in flux all the time, what does it really matter what's said or thought at this moment in time? It changes by the moment anyway. That's a MLC hallmark. (maybe it should be a card in the 99 cent section?)
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
