Job, I appreciate the words! I don't mind if the threads are merged, I just needed to get responses now. I did not know I could change the subject line.

Cadet, thanks for the directness, I need that. I am still struggling with expectations. I also read between the lines a lot. I will agree with anything said and listen only. I do not want this so no way I would help the process.
So then I still 180 and GAL? DB coach earlier today said to be warm and light with him and show happy to be home. I'm not to ask questions about him while away and do chapter five in DR using our exercise today... what themes I need to work on and do the empathy and validation when he brings things up. She does not know about this development.

Me54 WH48
S18 D16
M 22 T 24
EA-PA-EA 2011-2015
Separated 10/14 - 06/15
BD1 02/14
BD2 05/16
BD3 08/21/16 and began drinking again
Working on me and liking me again