W still at home, how to proceed?

[Cherry]

I agree with sandi, just be careful of any men she may be in contact with. These OP have a way of telling our troubled spouses the things they want to hear.

I was one of the "he'd never do that" people when I first came here. My h had an ea which turned into a pa. a year later down the line, he is tuning in and out of the r. I've discovered he has "a good female friend" who he swears it's nothing more, but when he suddenly checked out alarm bells rang.

Even an emotional affair is an addiction to them. That op might not be anything compared to you, but when they are in the fog, nothing matters, this person is telling them all they want to hear, and making them feel good about themselves. Maybe it's the buzz of someone finding them attractive or interesting, I really don't know. What I do know is they are poison!

It's great to hear the positive changes you've made for yourself. If say keep doing what works. Your w is very confused and clearly in the fog, truth is she doesn't know what she wants. But no woman wants to loose a good thing. Keep focusing on you, be the best man that you can be and leave her to figure herself out.

Good luck, it rooting for you