Newby here, desperate for some advice (thread 2)

[JRuss]

ForGump -- yes, unfortunately, the kids have picked up on it. When we used to fight overtly, they would get scared and cry and tell us please don't divorce. We've largely muzzled that crappy parenting example, though, but I can still tell they know we're not in a happy place. They're old enough to remember when we were. Both of my kids have told me in their own ways that they think they're mother is negative and that they know to steer clear when she's in one of her "moods". Just reinforces my resolve not to lay down and let her screw me (and the kids) over by getting more than 50% custody.

darknes -- I know I shouldn't listen to anything she says. Getting to the point where I can do that is the rub and why I find myself going to IC, coming here, and on and on, though. It is hard as hell.