Cadet - I agree with you 100% love is choice. My wife through the raw hurt believes intensely that its a feeling.
My IC and MC (w/o W) believes she has her part in our problems, but the pain is too raw right now to start confronting her part. My IC told me (not sure 100% agree) she can't hate you without loving you first. Wife has told me throughout my sitch, when she thinks about it, she hates me and can;t look at me like she use too. That and I don't love you are the two worst feelings in my life.
I just hope as my IC/MC has stated she does love you but its underneath a very large block of resentment and hurt feelings, and this will be a long time for her to get out of it.
