Cadet - Thanks for asking. First, I have started IC with an anger mgmt specialist. I am being honest to the root to my issues to my wife; so, that she understand at a certain level why I have acted that way. I am being conscience on how my behavior is impactful to those around me (sad statement because these are the most important people in my life).
Here's the kicker: I like a lot of you work in the professional environment with many stresses with people internally and externally. I don't get angry, rage, or do things that will be negatively consequential to my job. So, I have always had the coping skills to control my so called anger issues. These are people that are not even in anywhere near important to me as my W or kids; however, why I didn't use these same coping skills with my family is something I have no excuses for.
Lastly, my IC agrees with my statement, in a way I needed this wake-up call, because it was very obvious I was not going to voluntarily change my selfish/destructive behavior. Now that I understand the real consequences, i am committed to do everything to change and improve/better myself. I pray is not too late where it concerns my W.
