But I still believe that the love that we ask from the WS is fickle, not a real love. Don't get me wrong, if they have the awakening to own up for their sins, to God, then I truly believe that that M will work again.
But real love does not worry about 180's and cheeseless tunnels. Real love is selflessness. The 180 behaviour change and the right tunnel is just another way to correctly practice selfish love - and getting what you want - and what you want is your WS back. That in essence is why we're in this spot in the first place :-)
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Every marriage is the union of two flawed people who have moments of selflessness and moments of selfishness. No one is selfless with their spouse all the time.
If 180s make our marriage happier and reduce moments of tension while increasing connection, that seems like a good thing for H, for our four kids, and for me.
Me: 44 H: 44 Kids: 20, 16, 16, and 10 Together/Married: 22 years H announced he was emotionally detached and considering D: 4/4/16 H announced he is going to try to stay and reconnect: 5/1/16
