Cadet - First, sorry still don't know how to navigate with posting on this site.
1) Do I understand my sitch: I believe with a high degree of certainty, that through my anger and non-supportive behavior and with my last episode of stonewalling (not communicating) with her for almost 2 months that she finally had enough of my crap. This resentment has been building for years and she finally had enough to say...I don't want this M and I don't love you. It's easier for her to justify her actions to make any of her decisions.
2) Her point of view: Years of walking on eggshells and damage that my behavior has done to her psyche, self confidence/worth and with the added resentment that she felt she has not lived up to her potential. It finally was enough for her to "turn of any of the remaining love switch" to make a decision to end it.
3) Is it all about my anger issue: not 100% but in combintion of my supportive behavior - I would say a very big % why she doesn't love me.
4) Real reason: There's a part of me she is going through a MLC/a personal renaissance of sorts. Sh's turning 40, got a job, has changed her body/looks maybe she wants to explore what it means not to be married. However, I say with hope this is not about another person, but more about finding herself.
I hope this may add more context as to what i think.
