I do want to mention, over the past couple of weeks with not pursuing and attempting to detach as well as focusing with GAL especially with my kids. The W is now initiating texts not in any way like it use to be, but politely letting me know to enjoy the weekend with the kids. She also stating 'Thanks" and "Thank you" for things I do to make her/the household life easier. However, my wife, is naturally a kind person and I of course think this is my wife being nice and friendly, rather than have any thought to R.
One question I have: It was recently my wife's birthday and i gave her a sizable gift. First, because I normally do this, second, it's a milestone birthday, and third I already bought the gift much earlier. In the early period of this sitch, my W made it very clear she did not want any gifts from whatsover, and was not thrilled when i got a utility replacement for her and something she needed. Fast forward 5 weeks, I ask if she's willing to accept a gift from me for her birthday and she states yes, with some reservations. I ask her at this point to just accept it and if she doesn't like it, she can give it back to me. She did in fact accept it and thank me for it, but also stated I could return it If I wanted too. This is not a bribe and i'm not looking for conditions, but I got to think this is also not a bad sign. My W is not materialistic and understands our currently sitch.
