Self discipline and outside support, yes. I'm all for it, but I will have to wait and make sure W is ready to be 100% committed to me and working on our R. I suppose I will have to detach a bit more if she is not. It's pretty disappointing since I thought this was our starting point. I'll go ahead and use my mental "oh well" now.
My gut feeling is that she is not in contact with other men at this point. But I will not rule it out until I am sure. Thanks for the thought. We have been talking a little here and there, and it seems more of the same from her. I went out with my buddy for a drink last night. I let her know the day before and she seemed to have no problem with it, nothing was said. Now she tells me that I'm putting other people first and that she will never be put first. I validated her feelings, but I told her we should have talked about it when I told her. Also if we have different expectations in this sensitive time, then we should discuss that as well. This is a big red flag for me, it reminds me of the insecure and controlling behaviour of our old R that I don't want to be part of anymore. I'm not going with my instinct to run away from the issue. I am going to try to talk with her about it in a loving way to see if we can come to an understanding.
