1) I daydream about what it could be like to be married to New Guy but I worry that all the excitement I feel now will die if we lived together, the way it did when I was married to Mr. Fantastic. I don't know how much of that same ol', same ol' was because of me and how much was because he checked out. My New Guy is curious and always willing to say yes to new experiences. Would that last if he married me, or would I end up killing it? Would life with kids drive him crazy or would it bring out what I think he's been itching to explore, the challenge of being responsible for a family? What would we be like when the kids move out and it's just the two of us? Would we have enough to talk about then, or would we be ok with just sitting quietly together on a porch swing holding hands?
Sometimes I wish I could see the future. It comforts me that he's not perfect -- being with someone who treats me as he does seems too good to be true, if he were perfect I couldn't enjoy it at all.
Hi, Maybell, if you see below I just got divorced on Monday past. Went through a couple of your posts and the above jumped out at me. You're a strong woman and just keep on going, you're actually already there :-)
What i would like to add is that you cannot tell the future, you have no idea what is going to happen - but if you get caught up with the future you will NOT be able to appreciate the present. You are lucky, you could still have been married to Mr Fantastic (I love his nickname).
So live in the moment, make every moment the best that you can. You do it with your kids everyday, so do it with him too. If you show him unconditional love, he will reciprocate.
Just cos things are going right, doesn't mean that they were always wrong.
