MLC vs Midlife Reboot

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Ciluzen - reading your post, I found myself checking off all the MLC boxes. Yep, all that is par for the crisis course: dishonesty, manipulation and entitlement.

With some of the 'woe is me' things my h has said, it seems like he should have a whole symphony of violinists following him around all day and night.

One of the funniest things he has said while in crisis is that I have single handedly bankrupted him with all the snacks I buy!!! Meanwhile he bought himself a second car! (This is his second car band-aid attempt while in MLC. He bought his first, a convertible, while in denial. He is 6' 3" and was so uncomfortable in it. He looked like a clown in the thing when he got out!)

So, I assume your name is not on that river view property? Because even if MLCers don't go nuts with spending, they do begin to forget to make payments or make them late. It's his expensive band-aid so yes, it's his deal now.

And it is not selfish to take care of yourself. It is an essential practicing of self care. The more together you are, the more apparent it will be to him how messed up he is.