My wife walked out 4

[RSG]

RSG,
I don't think you crying is a setback. You are doing nothing an awesome job with your S. You are showing him a strong independent man. And a strong independent man can shed a tear every now and then.
A setback would be texting your W all day and giving her access.
Continue to detach, continue to limit info to your W.
If you and your W divorce then do you plan on constantly giving her updates, etc?
Think about that. What does your life look like without W?
And when you understand that then you will know how to communicate and correspond with W
Don't be mean or rude, but you are living your life right now
Patience!!

Thanks cbt. I'm doing well. I did trade texts with W last night. I was exhausted a took a "whoops" nap right around the time S went to sleep, and wokeup around 9 with frantic texts from W. Why aren't you updating me? Is everything ok? Are you upset with me? (This last one made me chuckle. REALLY? Are you seriously asking this? lol)

I had told her, per darkness recommendation, I would send updates after bed. I just said he had a good day and is asleep. We then discussed his schedule for next week, and I asked about next week availability for my counseling session. I'll be able to go next week, but thereafter I'm going to have to talk to the therapist because W school schedule simply won't work. I hope I can work something out, because I was starting to open up to my therapist. W mentioned for about the 4th time she's house sitting btw.

I did send 2 texts about periphery stuff re S I probably shouldn't have, luckily she said goodnight and it was left at that. She also continues to include scores of thank yous, sorry, using my name (now I don't use hers ever) etc.

This AM she said she was getting him early. I said ok. She sent a long paragraph about how she's trying to work so she can spend PM with him and asked if he'd like that. I said yes he would (probably didn't need to answer that, more rhetorical in nature). Then she went on about work, hoped I was doing ok at work and mentioned she's been busy. I didn't answer.

Picked up S around 12:30. Why she did so before naptime I don't understand, but she sent a bunch of texts about his day, how much she worries, he looked sad and she wanted to cry, etc. I just mentioned he got up really early, and that the actual school yr starts next week and will give him the structure he needs.


I don't know if I'm handling this right. She literally cannot do anything with S w/o me reassuring, explaining minutiae of his movements, etc etc. I'm so confused!